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H1c. Love Triangle #1 – Abram, Sarai and Hagar

There are many examples of dysfunction as we move from one origin story to another in Genesis. But since the focus of this series is going to be on the story of Joseph, I’m going to jump ahead to his great-grandfather, Abraham and look at the story of Abram, Sarai, Hagar and Ishmael.

THE STORY:

1. Abraham, Sarah and their Maid, Hagar.

A. God had promised Abram and Sarai a special son. They were an old couple and Sarai was barren. This was the first dysfunction, a physical affect of sin, the ‘death’ of Sarai’s child-bearing ability
B. When nothing still happened, Sarai proposed that her husband Abram have a child with her Egyptian maid, Hagar, and that they would conform to the Egyptian custom of Sarai holding Hagar as she gives birth, thus considering the child as having come from her.

This was dysfunction number 2. First, a lack of faith on Sarai’s part–she had given up hope and thought SHE was the problem, but that her husband–10 years older–could still engender a child.

The second part of the dysfunction was a cultural one–following a pagan custom from other, ungodly people rather than trusting and obeying God. God’s ways are perfect, even if difficult to wait for. Man’s ways are dysfunctional and always result in creating more problems than they solve.

C. As is inevitable when following a sinful path, Sarai’s hope for a son through her maid turned to hate when and she actually became pregnant and she might even have been filled with self-loathing at having this proof that SHE WAS the problem. As a result, she mistreated her maid instead of cherishing and nurturing her. This was the third dysfunction-a psychological one.

D. God intervened and appeared to Hagar, calling her back from her precipitous flight away from Sarai’s persecution and encouraging her to return to Abram’s household. This was God acting as ‘anti-entropy,’ putting things back to the right.

E. Hagar safely had the baby and they named him Ishmael. Abraham was overjoyed to finally have a child, especially a son. However, Sarah was never happy about Hagar and Ishmael receiving her husband’s loving attentions. Jealousy, another psychological dysfunction caused by sin, had long ago mastered Sarai’s heart.
F. FINALLY Isaac, the promised child, was  born. The older brother picked on him as they were growing up together (another psychological dysfunction of sin, not much different than Sarai’s persecution of Hagar). This constant threat from the maid’s son crystallized Sarai’s, now named Sarah, jealousy into action.

E. Sarah demanded of Abraham that Hagar and Ishmael be exiled. This was the result of the dysfunction of jealousy where we make people choose between two things or people that they love. “It’s either me or them!”

F. Abraham acquiesced to Sarah’s demands, gave Hagar some basic supplies, and expelled her from the family and the camp. This was the fourth dysfunction, a social one, with a family being broken up instead of coming together.

📋 SUMMARY
Children learn what they live. So, to summarize, these are some of the dysfunctions that Isaac grew up with, which would have set his functional moral compass.🧭

1. It’s not okay to not have children. If you can’t have them with your wife, it’s okay to have them with someone else.

2. It’s okay to mistreate and persecute those who are less powerful or less privileged than you are.

3. Passivity instead of leadership. It’s okay not to intervene in family problems, but take a ‘let them settle it between themselves’ approach. Then when the wife makes a demand, the husband acquiesces with a “Yes, dear.” This is not Christian leadership as God intends and as the Bible teaches.

4. If you can’t stand someone for whatever reason and you are in the more powerful position, it’s okay to exile them, kick them out, send them away from the family, to let them take their chances on their own in the unfriendly world, maybe secretly hoping that they will die and no longer be a problem? Just so long as they’re “out of sight, out of mind.”

God actually instituted the practice of exile instead of execution, not because it was a good thing to do, but because it was the best option available in a Fallen, sinful world when dealing with Fallen, sinful people.

Note that even though God said that the day they ate of the fruit from the tree of knowledge of Good and Evil they would die, He didn’t execute them. The first death was the animals killed by God to use their skins as coverings for Adam and Eve’s sin and shame. This was the first substitutionary death.

Abel mimicked God’s act of substitutionary sacrifice when he offered a lamb to God. God accepted it as a substitution for him and his sin, and killed and consumed it as an indication of His acceptance.

The first death of a person wasn’t until Cain killed his brother Abel out of jealousy.

Instead of immediate death, God exiled Adam and Eve from the easy living in the blessed garden. They did eventually die, which leaves us with the question, might they still have died before sinning? Or could it have been that they would have been allowed to eat the fruit of the Tree of Eternal Life when senescence approached?

Of course, we’ll never know, BUT WE who believe through Jesus Christ WILL eat from the ‘Tree of Eternal Life,’ and thus live forever.

🍎 APPLICATION

What moral values did you grow up with that have unknowingly set your 🧭 moral compass differently than how God intends?

I think that’s why there is such an emphasis in the New Testament on the death of the old person and ‘rebirth’ as a new person 👶. For example:

Jesus told Nicodemus that a person must be reborn if they want to be a part of the Kingdom of God that Jesus was bringing. That didn’t make ANY sense to the old Jewish teacher and leader.
Jesus compares His followers to seeds that have to be buried in the ground and die before they can sprout and produce any spiritual fruit. This statement left His disciples equally confused.
In his first letter to the Corinthian church, Paul uses the language of rebirth to describe how the old passes away and new things come to replace them.

In his first letter to the Corinthian church, Paul uses the language of rebirth to describe how the old passes away and new things come to replace them.

1. First of all, that WE have a responsibility to ‘put off,’ or ‘lay aside,’ our old sinful person…
2. That this ‘putting off’ of the old sinful man will then put us in a position for God, through the Holy Spirit, to make us new again = a rebirth.
3. …and then it’s back in our court to ‘put on’ this new person God has created for us to be.

In essence, Christian growth is a shared responsibility–God makes change possible, we would never be able to do it on our own–and then we have to obey in faith, make an effort to change, and keep at it in faith.

4. …and then “God causes the growth,” providing the power that actually changes us on the inside, deep down to our core.

A ‘Trickster’ is featured in many cultural myths around the world. A trickster is usually someone who crosses social and cultural boundaries, is morally ambiguous, and often a shapeshifer. 

• ‘Tricksters’ tend to be rule breakers. They defy social norms, cosmic laws, and divine authority, sometimes just for the fun of it, but at other times to prompt needed change. 🚫

• ‘Tricksters’ often are capable of shape-shifting for the purpose of disguise. 🐵

• ‘Tricksters’ are both creators and destroyers: They bring gifts to humanity, like fire or wisdom, while simultaneously causing disruptions and chaos. ☄️

Some examples:

Loki, the unpredictable Norse shape-shifting god, is the catalyst for both disaster and divine problem-solving.

Coyote or Raven are Indigenous North American heroes who shape the earth and teach people hard lessons through their  mistakes.

In East Asian mythology, the Monkey King rebelled against heavenly beings using cleverness and a magical staff.


Jacob, son of Isaac, meaning “The Supplanter,” exhibits some of the characteristics of a trickster and has been called such. Check out my next blog for his story and see what you think.


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